Comments for don't taKe iT literally http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com What you see is not always what you get... Thu, 05 Nov 2009 13:39:40 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Friday Night and Marriage (Part 3) aka Why I Freak Out by donttakeitliterally http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/2009/10/18/friday-night-and-marriage-part-3-aka-why-i-freak-out/#comment-427 donttakeitliterally Thu, 05 Nov 2009 13:39:40 +0000 http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/?p=785#comment-427 Ah... So sorry, I don't have a livejournal account. Any other way to view these updates? I would love to read them :) Ah… So sorry, I don’t have a livejournal account. Any other way to view these updates? I would love to read them :)

]]> Comment on Friday Night and Marriage (Part 3) aka Why I Freak Out by Buzz http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/2009/10/18/friday-night-and-marriage-part-3-aka-why-i-freak-out/#comment-426 Buzz Tue, 03 Nov 2009 03:18:09 +0000 http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/?p=785#comment-426 Hey, thanks. :) I've made some "friends only" updates on and off on my blog. Let me know if you have a livejournal account (or create one) and I'll be happy to add you as a friend. ;) Cheers, Buzz Hey, thanks. :) I’ve made some “friends only” updates on and off on my blog. Let me know if you have a livejournal account (or create one) and I’ll be happy to add you as a friend. ;)

Cheers,
Buzz

]]> Comment on Friday Night and Marriage (Part 3) aka Why I Freak Out by donttakeitliterally http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/2009/10/18/friday-night-and-marriage-part-3-aka-why-i-freak-out/#comment-425 donttakeitliterally Mon, 02 Nov 2009 17:10:59 +0000 http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/?p=785#comment-425 Hi Buzz! Thanks :) I've checked out your blog too, and I like it a lot! Why do you stop writing? I hope to read a new post from you soon. Hi Buzz!

Thanks :) I’ve checked out your blog too, and I like it a lot! Why do you stop writing? I hope to read a new post from you soon.

]]> Comment on Friday Night and Marriage (Part 3) aka Why I Freak Out by donttakeitliterally http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/2009/10/18/friday-night-and-marriage-part-3-aka-why-i-freak-out/#comment-424 donttakeitliterally Mon, 02 Nov 2009 17:07:37 +0000 http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/?p=785#comment-424 Raine, Punk, I'm sorry to reply late. The truth is, I reflect a lot these days. Firstly, I have to say that I feel good to acknowledge my own fear and weaknesses. Because only then I know I have something to work on. And writing all those feelings and thoughts here helps me to define it as well as let it all out. This article is long overdue, and I felt such a relief when it was finally published :) Secondly, I do ask myself whether or not I love the current me. Guess what, I don't. Since 3 months prior to this entry, I've slowly changed. I was under a lot of stress. I tried to overcome certain sadness and blocked my emotions. That did well to forget about that sadness, but it also turned me somewhat heartless. I relied too much on my logic; I lost my empathy. Thanks to you guys, I'm better now. I did some thinking and feel happier. However, what I wrote here still stands. I still have my fear; I'm still a cynic and a darned individualist. But I feel surer about being able to go through life in the way I want to lead, being who I want to be :) Raine, Punk,

I’m sorry to reply late. The truth is, I reflect a lot these days. Firstly, I have to say that I feel good to acknowledge my own fear and weaknesses. Because only then I know I have something to work on. And writing all those feelings and thoughts here helps me to define it as well as let it all out. This article is long overdue, and I felt such a relief when it was finally published :)

Secondly, I do ask myself whether or not I love the current me. Guess what, I don’t. Since 3 months prior to this entry, I’ve slowly changed. I was under a lot of stress. I tried to overcome certain sadness and blocked my emotions. That did well to forget about that sadness, but it also turned me somewhat heartless. I relied too much on my logic; I lost my empathy. Thanks to you guys, I’m better now. I did some thinking and feel happier. However, what I wrote here still stands. I still have my fear; I’m still a cynic and a darned individualist. But I feel surer about being able to go through life in the way I want to lead, being who I want to be :)

]]> Comment on Friday Night and Marriage (Part 3) aka Why I Freak Out by Buzz http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/2009/10/18/friday-night-and-marriage-part-3-aka-why-i-freak-out/#comment-423 Buzz Thu, 29 Oct 2009 06:41:45 +0000 http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/?p=785#comment-423 Came across your "blog" by chance. Just wanted to drop a note to say that I enjoyed reading your posts. Like your witty and sometimes acerbic writing style too. ;) Came across your “blog” by chance. Just wanted to drop a note to say that I enjoyed reading your posts. Like your witty and sometimes acerbic writing style too. ;)

]]> Comment on Friday Night and Marriage (Part 3) aka Why I Freak Out by Punk http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/2009/10/18/friday-night-and-marriage-part-3-aka-why-i-freak-out/#comment-422 Punk Fri, 23 Oct 2009 16:28:50 +0000 http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/?p=785#comment-422 Hmm..... how about calling him "client"? *LOL* Sounds like: you don't want to, but you can't afford to resist it. I can sense "I totally have no control over it" in your words; frustration, desperation... Allow me to ask you a question: Did you change much(in terms of personality) while in relationship with your "client" for these past few years? Now, ask yourself once more: Do you love being the current you? Do you find anything wrong with that? If no, why do you have to change? Why don't you allow your kids to be like you? It's okay to be honest & outspoken. Everybody should have the freedom to express themselves. I tell you solemnly: if you're afraid that it would happen, it's bound to happen. Be positive! Change that fuckin' belief and everything will be alright. Whether you think you can or think you can't, you're right.(-Henry Ford-) P.S. When you wake up every morning, tell yourself you won't change after marriage, or even after having kids. It works, trust me! Hmm….. how about calling him “client”? *LOL*

Sounds like: you don’t want to, but you can’t afford to resist it.
I can sense “I totally have no control over it” in your words; frustration, desperation…

Allow me to ask you a question: Did you change much(in terms of personality) while in relationship with your “client” for these past few years?

Now, ask yourself once more: Do you love being the current you?
Do you find anything wrong with that?
If no, why do you have to change?
Why don’t you allow your kids to be like you?
It’s okay to be honest & outspoken. Everybody should have the freedom to express themselves.

I tell you solemnly: if you’re afraid that it would happen, it’s bound to happen.
Be positive! Change that fuckin’ belief and everything will be alright.

Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.(-Henry Ford-)

P.S. When you wake up every morning, tell yourself you won’t change after marriage, or even after having kids. It works, trust me!

]]> Comment on Friday Night and Marriage (Part 3) aka Why I Freak Out by donttakeitliterally http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/2009/10/18/friday-night-and-marriage-part-3-aka-why-i-freak-out/#comment-421 donttakeitliterally Wed, 21 Oct 2009 09:10:05 +0000 http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/?p=785#comment-421 Hi Rhe! We are 2 birds from the same flock, hahahah... Yup, never settle for less. Never mind what everyone else says :) But I also don't really agree with the term "intellectual partner". It makes marriage sound like an intellectual institution "only", hahah... To me, it is far more complex! I miss talking to you too... Hi Rhe! We are 2 birds from the same flock, hahahah… Yup, never settle for less. Never mind what everyone else says :) But I also don’t really agree with the term “intellectual partner”. It makes marriage sound like an intellectual institution “only”, hahah… To me, it is far more complex!

I miss talking to you too…

]]> Comment on Friday Night and Marriage (Part 3) aka Why I Freak Out by Raine http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/2009/10/18/friday-night-and-marriage-part-3-aka-why-i-freak-out/#comment-420 Raine Wed, 21 Oct 2009 02:52:05 +0000 http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/?p=785#comment-420 I think it's silly to get married only because society expects you to, but it is as silly not to get married because you try so hard to prove yourself different or you're scared you would turn out to be just another Stepford wife. You said it yourself. Marriage doesn't magically change things. Marriage changes a person only as much as he/she allows it to. And I trust you won't change much if you like the way you are now. You should too. :) I think it’s silly to get married only because society expects you to, but it is as silly not to get married because you try so hard to prove yourself different or you’re scared you would turn out to be just another Stepford wife.

You said it yourself. Marriage doesn’t magically change things. Marriage changes a person only as much as he/she allows it to. And I trust you won’t change much if you like the way you are now. You should too. :)

]]> Comment on Friday Night and Marriage (Part 3) aka Why I Freak Out by Rhea http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/2009/10/18/friday-night-and-marriage-part-3-aka-why-i-freak-out/#comment-419 Rhea Tue, 20 Oct 2009 14:47:07 +0000 http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/?p=785#comment-419 Chatrin, no surprise here I guess... but I used to (still do) call myself "selfish individualistic bitch" too... :). Reading your blog post is more often than not like seeing a reflection of myself. I share the same sentiments as you, that's why I am where I am now, doing what I am doing, chose to be single for now and totally contented with it (unlike some single people who are oh-so-bitter). I have my own view of marriage and husband (I loathe the word hubby too) and I don't think I can settle for anything less than my own ideal. As for the word to describe 'husband', I actually like "intellectual partner" though it may invite some controversies. I may get married one day... we'll see ;). Thanks for writing, dear!! Miss talking to you. Chatrin, no surprise here I guess… but I used to (still do) call myself “selfish individualistic bitch” too… :) .
Reading your blog post is more often than not like seeing a reflection of myself. I share the same sentiments as you, that’s why I am where I am now, doing what I am doing, chose to be single for now and totally contented with it (unlike some single people who are oh-so-bitter). I have my own view of marriage and husband (I loathe the word hubby too) and I don’t think I can settle for anything less than my own ideal. As for the word to describe ‘husband’, I actually like “intellectual partner” though it may invite some controversies. I may get married one day… we’ll see ;) . Thanks for writing, dear!! Miss talking to you.

]]> Comment on Friday Night and Marriage (Part 3) aka Why I Freak Out by donttakeitliterally http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/2009/10/18/friday-night-and-marriage-part-3-aka-why-i-freak-out/#comment-418 donttakeitliterally Tue, 20 Oct 2009 13:21:57 +0000 http://donttakeitliterally.wordpress.com/?p=785#comment-418 Congratulations on your book, Sharon! I'll try to look for it :) Congratulations on your book, Sharon! I’ll try to look for it :)

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